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Hey there,

Are you looking for a doula to support you through pregnancy and birth?

  • Do you want a safe pair of hands to hold yours as you become a parent again or for the first time?

  • Did you have a hard time last time and would like it to go differently this time? (If “hard time” is putting it lightly this might be helpful.)

  • Has getting pregnant been a challenge? Perhaps your journey isn’t like anyone else’s journey and no one actually understands what it has been like?

  • Does birth feel scary and something you are dreading?

  • Are you planning a birth-day party and I’m invited?!

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However you got here - welcome, I can’t wait to meet you. Ruth xx

I will always be grateful for what she’s done for us
— Chris H

Who am I?

My name is Ruth, mother and birth (and sometimes postnatal) doula in Kent and London.

As a member of Doula UK (DUK), my practice reflects the Doula UK philosophy and the Doula UK code of conduct.

Why Do you want me at your birth?

I am passionate, professional, strong and loving. I don't have an agenda for how you should give birth or parent, I just want you to get the choice and support to be able to do it the way you want. 

As a massive birth geek I love collecting research and best practice to bring you the best information possible in the birth room.

You can read what people are saying about me here.

Ruth should come on the NHS
— Chris

What Can I Do For You?

Studies have shown that having a doula present at birth is linked to reduced rates of: inductions, cesearean sections, epidurals, forceps, ventouse and trauma. (See research page for more details of absolute risk).

“If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.” -Dr. John H. Kennell

At the simplest level, I want to be a part of making sure your rights are respected during birth. Studies show that when women are respected and listened to, they have a better birth experience, and much lower risk of trauma (please see research for absolute risk). 

I want to be there to hold the space for you to make those choices, to keep the room positive and calm when others may become distracted or have other priorities. 

I know that you can have a beautiful birth, whatever that looks like for you and your baby. 

Something special - how I doula differently

When you book me, you book a beautiful team of doulas called The Good Birth Practice. Together we offer shared care for families which provides the following benefits for families and us alike:

  • Antenatal Education + Hypnobirthing with The Good Birth Practice - heavily discounted

  • Specialist interests, skills and experiences

  • Same strong perspective on the way that you can birth i.e. any way you effing want to

  • 2 doulas for the price of 1

  • Reliable, known, nailed on back up for longer births

  • There with you as soon as you want with no fear of using up our energy in early stages

  • One of us available to visit you next day if you need it (sometimes this can be mega important in setting you up for your new adventure)

  • Borrow our equipment for fweeee: Birth Pool and TENS machine

For us, it means a team to support one another emotionally and operationally in times of lone working and exceptional circumstance like illness. Plus, we get best buds who have the same interests and same crazy work schedule!

I felt you were like an angel and kept me going.
— Jalmeen

Why Am I A Doula? 

Well, while pregnant and during the forth trimester, it became a daily norm for someone to come and tell me about their birth or breastfeeding story, often emotionally charged and difficult ones. I could hardly believe how women were being treated during birth, and that it was seen as normal and ignored. I started to do my homework and investigate pregnancy and birth in the UK today (as well as globally). It led me to learning about doulas, and how much difference they can make. I had to get involved and try to create positive change.

When allowed to autonomously make decisions about their own bodies and their babies, it has been found that parents make good choices. As a family, or single person bringing a child into the world, you are faced with many decisions to make, often surrounded by medical professionals. I want to support you, with your birth partner if you have one, to be in the best position, ready with all the information you need to make the right decisions for you

Mainly, I do this to change things for the better; I believe that if a mother is supported well enough then she can do her job of supporting new life to the best of her capacity. Parenting is not supposed to be done in a vacuum, people have had support for millennia, it is now that we find ourselves more cut off and without back up. I do this to be the back up, to be your mother, sister, friend, partner, teacher, student, peer and doula.

The most magical, positive, empowering and deeply bonding experience we could have ever hoped for as a family - this was in no small part due to the presence and influence of Ruth throughout. What a way to welcome our baby.
— Natalie B

Professional Development & Qualifications

  • University of Exeter: Addressing Postnatal Depression as a Healthcare Professional [June 2019]

  • ABM: Breastfeeding Counsellor [January 2019 - ongoing]

  • MAM Learning: 3 Step Rewind for Trauma [December 2018 - ongoing]

  • Doulas Without Borders: Volunteer Doula [November 2018 - ongoing]

  • Doula UK: Recognised [September 2019]

  • The Mother Side: Perinatal Professional & Meetup Coordinator [November 2018]

  • Doulavation: Doula developmental course [November 2018 - January 2019]

  • MyBump2Baby: Named A Favourite Blogger [October 2018]

  • Developing Doulas: Doula Preparation Training [September 2018]

  • Family Action: Digital Parent Support Volunteer [August 2018 - ongoing]

  • Deakin University: Infant Nutrition [August 2018]

  • Family Action: Safeguarding Adults and Children [August 2018]

  • London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine: The Lancet Maternal Health Series, Global Research and Evidence [August 2018]

  • Family Action: Introduction to Equality and Diversity [July 2018]

  • Family Action: Protecting Data [July 2018]

  • Kings College London: Understanding NHS Values [July 2018]

  • Feedly: Awarded Top UK Doula Blog [June 2018]

  • Doula UK: Introductory Workshop [April 2018]

  • Doula UK: Conference (Survivor Stories) [March 2018]

  • Darent Valley Hospital: Hypnobirthing for parents [August 2017]

  • Daisy Foundation: Active Antenatal Birthing for parents, 20 weeks [September 2017]

Ruth was the best support I could have asked for during pregnancy, labour and birth - and I know my husband feels the same. She brings a really positive energy and has that all-important intuition to know when to be involved and when to step back.
— Maria

Next Steps

But, enough about me - what we are really interested in now is you. This is the bit where you get to be really selfish; you are growing a human. A whole human! Inside you. That gives you licence to think about and talk about yourself pretty much all the time. Come and tell me your story, and why you want a doula.

Let’s start making the best damn birth team you can imagine.

Simply amazing - she breathed through every contraction with me over several hours, encouraged me when I was exhausted, supported me when faced with choices from midwives, held our space so my partner and I had the freedom to be, think and move as we wanted to in labour.
— Natalie

Free Resource of the month (whoop whoop!)

(Sure, we all know I can only be arsed to change this quarterly, but that is less catchy, let it slide?!). Your email address will be added to my secure mailing list. It will never be shared and you won’t receive emails very often.

4th Trimester Care Plan

Pop your email below and I will send you a beautiful, hugely helpful care plan for those first hours, days and weeks with your new squishy parcel.

 
 

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